I have always known that my grandmother
Sharlene Anderson Royalty was a remarkable woman, but until recently I knew
very little about who she really was. After interviewing her, I discovered
truly how little I knew. Learning more about her gave me a new perspective on
who she is and also changed the way I view her. For 17 years I have seen her as
my "Mimi", but after our interview I started to view her as a human
being, in many ways similar to myself.
My grandmother was born on September
5th 1935 in Lakecreek Texas. She was born to Eugenia Mable and
Benjamin Lycurgus Anderson. Benjamin Anderson (my great grandfather) was a
farmer and a part time mail carrier. My grandmother's first 9 years
were spent in North East Texas on her family’s farm. She told me of how her
mother would pick cotton in the fields during the day leaving her in charge of caring
for her little brother. Starting at the age 5 she attended school at first in a
one room school house and later in a larger 12 grade school. As we were
discussing her early years she had a lot to say about her life on the farm.
Some of her fondest memories are of playing house inside her family’s hen house
and of her pet rooster “Charlie” whom she just couldn't stomach eating for
dinner. While on the farm her family didn't have many of the luxuries we take
for granted today. They had no electricity, and no indoor plumbing. She
said that a battery was their way of powering the lights and their only source
of electricity. When my grandmother was nine years old her family was evicted
from their farm after a bad crop season. Her family then left behind farm life
and moved down into the nearby village where her father became a full time mail
carrier. She said that her father had somehow saved up enough money
to buy them a house in the village which finally brought them indoor
plumbing.
My grandmother had three siblings, two of
which were 13 years older than her. She told me that she had trouble adjusting
to the arrival of her youngest brother. He was 5 years younger than her and she
said that she felt as if he just appeared out of nowhere one day, suddenly
occupying her old baby bed. Apart from the company of her siblings she was
incredibly isolated. She told me that especially during the summer months she
had relatively no interaction with the outside world. In her own words she
"lived in a pretend world" for the first nine years of her life.
In her "pretend world" she loved to play with dolls and most
of all she loved to color in her precious coloring books. What made her coloring
books so special was because Christmas for her family was not what Christmas
entails for my own family today. A coloring book was often all she would get
for Christmas apart from a few fruits in her stocking. Hearing about this
aspect of her life made me realize how much I take for granted in my own. My
grandmother has always been an incredibly generous Christmas present giver, and
after hearing what Christmas was like for her as a child it gave new importance
to the gifts I have received from her over the years.
During her High school years my grandmother moved from her
familiar little village school with 44 students in her class to Brazosport high
school with a class of 177 students. She struggled with her new high school and
every night, she told me that she would dream of walking into her old high
school where everyone was happy to see her. She said that her salvation
came from her 3rd period choir, where she met new friends and began to feel
comfortable in her new surroundings. I asked my grandmother if there was
anything she had wanted to do with her life and she replied that she had wanted
to be a music teacher. She told me that she was enrolled in North Texas State
University but she never attended. This was because of James Walter Royalty (my
grandfather) whom she met in January of her senior year of high school and by
February that same year after just six weeks, the two were engaged. My Papa was
27 at the time of their marriage and they were married on my grandmother’s 18th
birthday, they had a 9 year age difference. My grandmother told me a story
about when she was in school showing off her wedding ring. Her teacher asked
her who the lucky man was and she said "Jimmy Royalty" her teacher
then replied "That old man!" It blows my mind to think of how my very
own grandmother was married at almost the age I am now. I feel like a baby
myself but I think that she was incredibly brave to enter into marriage at so
early an age. The truly amazing thing is that my grandparents were married for
about 55 years, until 2008 when my Papa passed away. Their love story inspires
me!
After my grandparents were married they lived through very
trying circumstances. My grandfather was a welder and after working for his
father and various other companies he endeavored to start his own business.
What eventually became "Royalty Welding” started off as a very small one
man business. In the process of building their business my grandparents faced
many challenges but they overcame them together! I am so grateful to both my
grandparents for all of their hard work. I would not have had the life I do if they had not persevered. In later years my grandparents were blessed with abundance and were able to live in comfort spoiling us grandchildren with love and presents.
Growing up I only saw a fraction of the life my grandparents lead but through my grandmother I am now able to see a full image of the people they truly were.Though their lives may seem uneventful or common to others, to me, their lives are utterly fascinating. I am who I am because of who they were. throughout the experience of interviewing my grandmother I learned the great importance of taking the time to ask others about their own story, and not only to ask, but to listen and learn. I am so thankful that I got the chance to hear and record my grandmother’s story.
Written word cannot fully express the charms of oral history so for the moments of our interview that simply could not be expressed with words, below is a recording of the entire interview. ^-^